2. Give lots of compliments, even if you’re shy. Everyone else is too.
3. Change. Get a haircut, try new perfume, get new sheets. Become better than you were before.
4. Eat healthier. Learn to cook something fancy.
5. Get up earlier and watch the sun come up.
6. Wear soft clothes, take a bath, drink something warm.
7. Meet someone new, even just a friend.
8. Become closer with your friends and your family. Call your mother. Cry with your best friend. Tell everyone how much you appreciate them.
9. Keep your room clean. Buy some candles. Let the natural light in.
10. Make a list of reasons why you’ll be better off without them. Believe they are true, because they are.
11. Listen to new music.
12. Write everything you’re thinking and feeling. Write letters. Write happy letters, sad letters, and angry letters, even if you’re never going to send them.
13. It’s okay to be sad, but not forever. Sadness is not as beautiful as music makes it seem. Lack of sleep makes your eyes droopy, not deep. Wake up every morning and tell yourself you’re going to have a good day.
14. Go to the library. Don’t forget to look in the music section.
15. Remove them from your life. Get rid of the things they gave you if they make you sad. They’re not worth it. You will never be happy if you continue to hold on to the things that make you sad.
16. Make new memories.
17. Try to find something to appreciate in everything you do or experience.
18. Being alone is okay, you don’t have to surround yourself with people.
19. Become your own best friend. Buy yourself coffee and drink it alone in a cafe. Take your time.
20. Learn to love every bit of yourself."
Oo na sige na nagmahal ka na. Oo na sige na masakit na masakit na. Oo na sige na alam ko na yung feeling na hindi mo kaya. Pero bago ang lahat mahalin mo muna ang sarili mo. Minsan sa sobrang pagmamahal natin sa lalaki all out talaga tayo, as in to the point na wala ng matitira kaya kapag iniwan tayo parang di natin kaya. Andun na ko, ganun talaga tayo magmahal eh. Pero kapag nakikita niyo na binabasura at sinusuka na kayo, pwede bang huwag maging desperada?
Osige ipaglaban mo sya, ipagpilitan mo ang sarili mo ng minsan, pero kapag wala parin tigil na. Alam mo kasi kapag nagiging desperada kang ganyan imbes na maawa sayo ang lalaki, maiinis lalo yan at magpapahabol lalo. Huwag mong ibaba ang sarili mo ng dahil sa lalaki that is kung wala ka namang pinanghahawakan. And worst magpapakamatay ka para sa isang lalaki? Kacheapan! Masarap mabuhay girl!
Masakit? Di mo kaya? Assess mo nga ang sarili mo, pagmamahal ba yang umiiral sayo o masakit lang yang pride mo kasi hindi mo akalain na kaya kang ipagpalit? Ganyan talaga ang buhay, walang permanente. Hindi lang ikaw ang nakakaranas niyan girl, and look at them, nasurvive nila diba? So malamang ikaw din.
Yang sakit na yan minsan it’s all in the mind. Imbes na habul habulin mo ang lalaki, bat di mo ayusin muna ang sarili mo. Magpaganda ka, magpaparlor, bumili ng mga bagong damit, underwears. Kung pinagpalit ka sa iba ipakita mo na wala sa kalingkingan mo ang babaeng ipinalit sayo. Hindi yung ganyan ibababa mo ang sarili mo. Ayaw na nga sayo ipipilit mo parin ang sarili mo. Nakakapangit yan teh!
Nakakapangit yan teh!
Siguro dadating talaga sa buhay nating mga babae ang isang lalaki na makakapagparanas satin nyan, yung ipaglalaban natin sila, magpapakadesperada, magpapakababa para bumalik sila. Andun na ko. Pero huwag naman sana nating kalimutan na palaging una ang sarili. Pano ka mamahalin ng lalaking yan kung di mo mahal ang sarili mo.
Oo marami ng bading nowadays pero hindi pa nagkakaubusan ng lalaki teh! Marami pa dyan. Improve yourself at tignan na lang natin kung hindi sya mismo ang bumalik sayo. At pag nalampasan mo yang sakit na yan pupusta ako, tatawanan mo lang kung bakit nagpakabaliw ka sa lalaking yan. ♥
Yung taong tanggap ang kamoodihan, kaartehan, kamalditahan, kapilyahan, kakulitan, kaangaasan o inshort yung mga masasamang ugali at traits na meron ka. Iniintindi bawat masasaket na salitang binabato mo. Inuunawa at hindi paren bumibitaw sa pagmamahal at pagpapakita ng pagsuyo at effort.
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The list below contains descriptions of some of the more common traits of people who suffer from personality disorders, as observed by family members and partners. Please note that these descriptions are not intended for diagnosis. No one person exhibits all of the traits and the presence of one or more traits is not evidence of a personality disorder.
1. Abusive Cycle - This describes the characteristic rotation between destructive and constructive behavior that typically exists in dysfunctional relationships.
2. Alienation- Interfering or cutting a person off from relationships with others. This can be done by manipulating the attitudes and behaviors of the victim or of the people with whom they come in contact. The victim’s relationships with others may be sabotaged through verbal pressure, threats, diversions, distortion campaigns and systems of rewards and punishments.
3. “Always” & “Never” Statements - These are but rarely true.
4. Unresolved anger – The belief that they have been wronged, invalidated, neglected or abused.
5. Avoidance - The practice of withdrawing from relationships with other people as a defensive measure to reduce the risk of rejection, accountability, criticism or exposure.
6. Baiting and Picking Fights - The practice of generating a provocative action or statement to obtain an angry, aggressive or emotional response from another person.
7. Belittling, condescending & patronizing speech - Giving someone a verbal put-down while maintaining a facade of reasonableness or friendliness.
8. Blaming - The practice of identifying a person or people responsible for creating a problem, rather than identifying ways of dealing with the problem.
9. Bullying - Any systematic action of hurting a person from a position of relative physical, social, economic or emotional strength.
10. Catastrophizing - The habit of automatically assuming a “worst case scenario” and inappropriately characterizing minor or moderate problems or issues as catastrophic events.
11. Chaos Manufacture - The practice of unnecessarily creating or maintaining an environment of risk, destruction, confusion or mess.
12. Cheating - Sharing a romantic or intimate relationship with somebody when you are already committed to a monogamous relationship with someone else.
13. Chronic Broken Promises - Repeatedly making and then breaking commitments and promises.
14. Circular Conversations - Arguments which go on almost endlessly, repeating the same patterns with no real resolution.
15. Cognitive Dissonance - The discomfort that most people feel when they encounter information which contradicts their existing set of beliefs or values.
16. Confirmation Bias - The tendency to pay more attention to things which reinforce your beliefs than to things which contradict them.
17. “Control-Me” Syndrome - A tendency to foster relationships with people who have a controlling narcissistic, antisocial or “acting-out” nature.
18. Denial - The practice of believing or imagining that some painful or traumatic circumstance, event or memory does not exist or did not happen.
19. Dependency - An inappropriate and chronic reliance on another individual for their health, subsistence, decision making or personal and emotional well-being.
20. Dissociation - A psychological term used to describe a mental departure from reality.
21. Divide and Conquer - A method of gaining and advantage over perceived rivals by manipulating them into conflicts with each other.
22. Emotional Abuse - Any pattern of behavior directed at one individual by another which promotes in them a destructive sense of fear, obligation or guilt.
23. Emotional Blackmail – Using threats and punishments to control a person.
24. Engulfment - An unhealthy level of attention and dependency on a spouse, partner or family member. It comes from believing that we only exist within the context of that relationship.
25. Entitlement - An unrealistic expectation of favorable living conditions and favorable treatment at the hands of others.
26. Favoritism - Giving positive, preferential treatment to one child, subordinate or associate among a group of peers.
27. Fear of abandonment - A pattern of irrational thought which causes a person to think that they are in imminent danger of being rejected or replaced by someone else.
28. Feelings of Emptiness - A chronic and acute sense of nothingness or emptiness, so that their own existence has little worth or significance to them.
29. Gaslighting - The practice of systematically convincing an individual that their understanding of reality is mistaken or false.
30. Harassment - Any sustained or chronic pattern of unwelcome behavior.
31. Hoarding - Accumulating items to an extent that it becomes detrimental to quality of lifestyle, comfort, security or hygiene.
32. Holiday, Anniversary & Memory Triggers - Mood Swings triggered or amplified by emotional events such as family holidays or significant anniversaries and events.
33. Hoovers - A Hoover is where an abuse victim gets “sucked back in” when the perpetrator temporarily exhibits improved or desirable behavior.
34. Hyper Vigilance - The practice of maintaining an unhealthy level of interest in the behaviors, comments, thoughts and interests of others.
35. Hysteria - An over-reaction to bad news or disappointments.